A homemade Buddhist ritual for Letting Go
Ritual in Buddhism is seen as an activity to build skillful means, or upaya (as translated in Sanskrit). We partake in this when we need supportive refuge or to come back to our true intention.
Rituals are a meditation in action to invoke love, peace, harmony and health, and also something we can use to say goodbye. Holding on to anger or resentment is often just our ego’s way of still wanting to be right. In the skillful means of letting go, we try to not make things right or wrong, but rather see things just as they are clearly. In fact, one of the most popular styles of Buddhist mediation is called Vipassana, which literally translates in Sanskrit to “clear seeing.” When we are able to let go of things, we can then approach our situation again with a steady view.
Here are the steps for my own Buddhist ritual for letting go:
(If you are new to rituals, set a timer for five minutes. If you are experienced, do this for as long as you wish!)
In Buddhism, we structure rituals with a beginning, a middle and an end. More...
In recent years, I have been deeply blessed, taking weeks out for just ‘being’, spending many days in contemplation and reflection, and, would you believe, lots of silence. I laugh when I write this, because I do enjoy silence a lot!
One of the special places I have visited is Tiruvannamalai, a pilgrims’ and temple town in Tamil Nadu (India), by Mt Arunachala, a sacred extinct volcano, the very place where the great spiritual master Ramana Maharishi became enlightened. What attracted me to this place is its incredible spiritual energy, and the fact that each winter there is a collection of Satsang Teachers who give Satsang each day. I was there for 8 days and attended 2 Satsangs each day in 2012/2013. It was absolutely exhausting to be in that presence for a whole 8 days, twice per day and when I reflected afterwards I wondered if it was because when you are in Satsang you sit in the energy of an enlightened person. More...
What if studying tantra could heal our societal addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities - to experience ecstasy - changes everything?
I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to learn more and then to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no. We live in a very conservative talking way, where sexual acitivties and desires are often sidelined to discussions with private, intimate friends. Some people don't have these connections with their partners and friends. Some people therefore have no opportuntiy to discuss or act within these essential parts of our lives and help themselves by the main way the commercial world allows them - by viewing porn. How can I change this? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn.
Despite some opinions, I believe that porn isn’t a naughty or despicable activity to engage in. People should enjoy choosing to spend their time on their own, watching porn. Lots of people truly enjoy watching porn, including many couples who use it together to have a new experience. Yet it is seemingly undeniable that there are some sides to porn that are not therapeutic to the person. Tantra offers a therapeutic, open explorative, and holistic approach to our sexual lives in the opposite way to porn (and the open commercial approach to sexuality) can restrain us as human beings. More...
At al Covo, we offer a chakra balancing training course, meditation or stretching treatments here at the suite, and this exercise below, called '5 Tibetans', is an example of an programme you can follow through here at our suite, or at home. The Five Tibetans rejuvenate the entire psycho-physio network, stimulating full energy flow through the chakras and enliven corresponding nerves, organs and glands. These exercises also tone and strengthen the major muscle groups, contributing to a strong, resilient physique. I recommend that the 5 Tibetans for those who lack energy in their day to day lives, require a rebalancing, or perhaps those wanting to promote weight loss.
Begin with a comfortable number of repetitions, then you can increase up to 21. More...
At al Covo, I offer many many types of massage, and well-being treatments. Many of them are flexible to deal with a variety of conditions, such as Reiki, Reflexology, Remedial Massage, Aromatherapy, Meditations, however Acupressure and Tapping have always held a unique ability to cross over the emotional and physical focus that many clients have, and therefore make it so attractive to many people. Here is my favourite 50 list of why I love them so much:
1. Anyone can learn the Acupressure points
2. You don’t need needles like Acupuncture
3. It works with the same meridian pathways as Traditional Chinese Medicine
4. It’s super safe to apply
5. You can do it anywhere (at work, school, in line, at home, while you travel) More...
Are you Tired? Surrender to Loving
Are you tired? If not, get tired! If you are not tired, you will never reach home. Only if you are tired, will you ever rest, will you reach home. Everything in the world tires you; the one thing that will not tire you is love, because that is the goal, that is home. Have you ever heard anyone say, "Oh, I am so tired of loving"? It is unheard of because it is not possible to be tired in love!
You are tired of convincing people, of explaining things to people, of comforting, or pleasing people. You can be tired of everything else, even enjoyment! In fact, tiredness is the shadow of enjoyment. What puts you on the road, and what brings you home, is being in love.
Did you know that the expression of your genes is modifiable?
The old notion that genes control your life has been replaced by new epigenetic discoveries. For example, when you put stem cells in a petri dish with the conditions that support muscle growth, the cells evolve into strong contractile muscles. However, if you change the conditions in the petri dish, the same cells can become bone cells, fat cells, and even brain cells! When you put stem cells in a petri dish with the conditions that support muscle growth, the cells evolve into strong contractile muscles. I personally find this fascinating. While every one of your cells is genetically identical, their fate is controlled by the conditions around them.
Beyond the petri dish
Today scientists are taking this even further and way beyond the petri dish. They’re exploring the impact of what you eat, drink, breathe and do on your genetic activity. I think the most unexpected discovery is connected to yoga, meditation, prayer, and mindful breathing. Over one hundred studies found that these activities can also influence your genes and the rate at which you get older. More...
Your chakras are amazingly powerful energy centers because they interact with the creative energy around you. When these chakras are working properly, your creative manifesting energy can flow better, leading to more success, happiness and fulfillment.
Here is a simple and effective meditation technique you can use today, to open and activate your chakras for the better:
Part I: Tuning In
1. Find a comfortable place to sit.
Find a place where you will be able to focus without distraction. You can sit on a cushion with your legs crossed on if this is comfortable for you. If you prefer, the meditation can be done while seated in a chair. Make sure that your feet are placed firmly on the ground.
2. Align your posture.
When taking your seat in meditation, bring your attention into your body. Straighten the spine, the main energy highway of the body. Lift your head so that the crown is pointed towards the sky. Tuck your chin. Roll your shoulders back. This ensures that the spine is in a neutral position. Neutral alignment of the spine allows your energy to flow freely through the body. More...
Top 5 Ways to Clean Your Aura
Your aura is a soft, ethereal glow that surrounds your body and this glow is made up of faint colors. The glow itself flows through 7 key points in your body called your chakras.
The chakras run all up and down your spine and each chakra directly corresponds to a different part of your being. For example, there are chakras that correspond to your physical self, to your emotional self and to your spiritual self.
Your aura should always be a healthy, radiant glow. You don’t want the colors to be too faint and you don’t want any breaks, tears or misshapen spots marring your aura. If your aura is always in a healthy way, then your emotions will be balanced and you will likely be in a positive mood most of the time. This is crucial because the law of attraction states that like attracts like. This means that whatever energy you put out into the universe you will attract right back to you. So, if you put positive energy out into the universe, you will attract positive and healthy people and situations back to you. This is all key to your manifestation work. More...
In my meditations recently I have been sat with the question about “What would it be like to love all of yourself?”
At first glance, it’s easy to brush it all off and say of course I love all of myself, or I love myself.
But the bit I am after in this self-reflection, is the parts of you that you don’t love or don’t like about yourself. If you were to start to make a list of those areas, it could start to be quite telling.
On a pathway of self-exploration and self-development, self-acceptance for me is one of the keys of Love. I describe Love as being something you can experience, either on your own, with another object or person, but I also want to introduce the idea of it being a state of being. By this I mean, feeling in contact with your heart centre as well as your logical head both at the same time. See if you can practice that for a while, how it is to sit between these 2 places, head and heart and then take a look around you. The world can start to look quite different.
I would describe this as being the optimal way of being, connected with both in tandem. More...