Connection and Intimacy

What if studying tantra could heal our societal addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities - to experience ecstasy - changes everything?

I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to learn more and then to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no. We live in a very conservative talking way, where sexual acitivties and desires are often sidelined to discussions with private, intimate friends. Some people don't have these connections with their partners and friends. Some people therefore have no opportuntiy to discuss or act within these essential parts of our lives and help themselves by the main way the commercial world allows them - by viewing porn. How can I change this? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn.

Despite some opinions, I believe that porn isn’t a naughty or despicable activity to engage in. People should enjoy choosing to spend their time on their own, watching porn. Lots of people truly enjoy watching porn, including many couples who use it together to have a new experience. Yet it is seemingly undeniable that there are some sides to porn that are not therapeutic to the person. Tantra offers a therapeutic, open explorative, and holistic approach to our sexual lives in the opposite way to porn (and the open commercial approach to sexuality) can restrain us as human beings. More...

5 Tibetans Yoga - Simple Stretching Exercises for Chakras, Weight Loss and Tantra

At al Covo, we offer a chakra balancing training course, meditation or stretching treatments here at the suite, and this exercise below, called '5 Tibetans', is an example of an programme you can follow through here at our suite, or at home. The Five Tibetans rejuvenate the entire psycho-physio network, stimulating full energy flow through the chakras and enliven corresponding nerves, organs and glands. These exercises also tone and strengthen the major muscle groups, contributing to a strong, resilient physique. I recommend that the 5 Tibetans for those who lack energy in their day to day lives, require a rebalancing, or perhaps those wanting to promote weight loss.

Begin with a comfortable number of repetitions, then you can increase up to 21. More...

P-C Muscle Tantric Exercise for Men

This practice is ideal for men who want to experience an outwardly non-physically stimulating state of sexual arousal. In other words, a build up of sexual energy without hands or any other method of stimulating the penis. This can lead to auto-ejaculation- the ability to reach an ejaculation without stimulating your penis. Instead, we use the breath, and use your pc (perineal-coccygeal muscles) muscles and really let your arousal state fly. And if auto-ejaculation does not happen, then the practise of trying to get there is already highly tantric and I'll give you some other hints and tips that can take you into an orgasmic state. More...

Why I LOVE Acupressure and Tapping

At al Covo, I offer many many types of massage, and well-being treatments. Many of them are flexible to deal with a variety of conditions, such as Reiki, Reflexology, Remedial Massage, Aromatherapy, Meditations, however Acupressure and Tapping have always held a unique ability to cross over the emotional and physical focus that many clients have, and therefore make it so attractive to many people. Here is my favourite 50 list of why I love them so much:

1.   Anyone can learn the Acupressure points
2.   You don’t need needles like Acupuncture
3.   It works with the same meridian pathways as Traditional Chinese Medicine
4.   It’s super safe to apply
5.   You can do it anywhere (at work, school, in line, at home, while you travel) More...

Some Basic Approaches to Exploring Sexual Stimulation

When working to arouse either yourself or others, push aside all limits. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, sexual arousal is more than just reaching orgasm. It’s about getting to know your potential, and your partners, or that of just one of you. Don't be shy or wary of exploring just your own, or your partner's body. It doesn't always have to be about both of you. Adoring a person is fulfilling, just as it is fulfilling to be adored by someone - each without expecting anything in return. It doesn't have to be a mixture of give and take throughout a session together, one person can give for a whole session, while the other receives. This is what I try and encourage men to think about in tantric practice, in the use of sensual accessories, and in tantric massage, prostate massage, sensual massage, private male touch or shared intimate touch sessions. After years of getting to know myself and other men, I’m still discovering new things and I’m loving every second of it. Here are a few techniques you can use to take your “me” time, or exploring another man's body, to a first new level:


#1) The Praying Orgasm


Sex, Food and Theatre: A Cultural Reflection

I have really noticed over the last few weeks how our shame with sex and sexuality can manifest itself. If we were enlightened beings we could accept sex as a natural part of who we are and experience it without shame, guilt or judgements. And we would freely use it as ways to experience bliss and profound altered states of consciousness. You would then ask the question about what gets in the way in that? What stops that happening? Over the last few weeks I have been aware that some forms of tantric offerings on the market are too sexual in their online imagery, that a 'love temple' is an excuse for an orgy, and that people make too much noise when experiencing bliss. When I reflect on this, I wonder if this all comes from our own social programming, not to be too loud in sex, not to make too much noise, that sex at some level is wrong, that too much sex makes you self-centred and just about personal gratification. More...

Are All Calories The Same?

As a nutritionist, I’m often asked, “Is a calorie a calorie?” Well, according to the laws of thermodymanics, yes, all calories are created equal (at least on paper). But —and this is a big but— the way the body breaks down carbohydrates, protein and fat, the three main sources of calories in our diet (four if you count alcohol), and the effect they have on our bodies differ vastly. There are semester-long courses that explain just how our bodies break down, burn and store each of these four calorie sources differently, but since this is a 750-word blog post, I’ll try do my best to briefly explain why not all calories are created equal.


In addition to being a potent and flavorful source of energy, fats slow digestion, deliver important fat-soluble vitamins to the body, and provide important building blocks for every one of our cells.

All dietary fats provide about 9 calories per gram but, as you likely already know, some fats are better for our health than others. For example, polyunsaturated omega-3 fats, found in foods like wild salmon and flaxseed, have protective, anti-inflammatory properties, whereas artificial trans fats have been linked to increased inflammation and heart disease. More...

Is now the time for waxing, guys?

With so many trends fighting for our attention these days, it’s hard to know what’s staying for good and what will be gone tomorrow. One thing I know for sure and have never questioned, is waxing. It’s not a fad and it’s here to stay.


Waxing has been used as a form of hair removal for thousands of years. The reason it has secured its permanent place in the beauty industry is simple – It’s safe, effective and attainable. Different hair removal techniques such as sugaring, IPL, laser hair removal etc. have become very popular in recent years as advertising and celebrity endorsements have caused consumers to have conflicting thoughts on what is best. Playing on consumers desire to have permanent lifelong results, a ‘natural’ alternative or simply to be a part of a new ‘trend.’

6 Appetite Controlling Technniques for Weight Loss

It can be hard not to overeat. You eat a healthy meal at home, think you’re doing well, then you head out (to almost any destination) and are surrounded by junk food. You get hungry, and pretty soon you’re at the local burger joint, diet forgotten.

Or maybe you stick to the “right” foods, but they’re just so good that you can’t have just one portion. We’ve all been there. That used to be me.

The following six strategies have changed the game for me—now I’m healthier, enjoy my meals more, and my appetite is low enough that, if anything, I have to make an effort to eat more!

Add Vinegar and Cinnamon to Meals to Control Blood Sugar More...

25 Facts About BDSM - a Realistic, Tantric Perspective

At Man On The Couch training and treatments at al Covo, we realise you experience all kinds of emotions during massage, well-being and tantra treatments. With all the interest in Fifty Shades of Grey, I thought it would help to put a different perspective on BDSM which forms an important but little well-known aspect of some people's chosen emotional experiences. So, forget Fifty Shades of Grey. here comes your real primer on all things kink. Man On The Couch trains in some of BDSM aspects, for beginners, in our Tantric Practice course, Sensual Toys and Accessories course, and discuss more in theory in our Tantric Concepts course. If you wish to experience BDSM as a client, you can choose Sensual Accessories as part of a Sensual Massage, Tantric Massage, Prostate Massage, or Shared Intimate Touch treatment


About the author

Steve from AlcovoBorn in Worcestershire, and educated to second (Masters) degree in Geography, I worked in a corporate company before being inspired more fully into well-being from travels to the Eastern and Tropical countries of the Philippines, India, Kenya, the Maldives, Mauritius and Mozambique.

I gained an understanding of spas, treatments and clients along my way, and have developed this into my own practice, al Covo, to which I welcome you warmly. I pride myself on al Covo's warmth, peaceful aura, hygiene and thoroughness.

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